5. When you’re together, put your phone away.
I confess that I am often guilty of this in no less than everyone around me. There will always be another e-mail to be answered, another SMS from a friend, another social media feed that needs to be viewed. I understand that the temptation is great … and, nevertheless, you need to put this object, alluring with your screen, aside and, finally, see a man sitting next to you.
When I realize that I am once again stuck in this vicious circle, I try to take a deep breath, and soberly think about what I might be in danger of simply ignoring all the messages coming to my phone while we are together. Well, that is, in the event of a life or death issue, my husband will certainly understand me, and will not be offended that I need to make several phone calls and send a dozen messages, but most other things … they may well wait.
And I understand that as soon as I put my phone aside, I begin to see truly the person with whom I once connected my whole life, and whom I love madly. I see his beautiful face, gentle hands, and I understand how stupid it was to devote your time not to him, but to some soulless piece of iron.
Make a simple agreement with your partner – if, during your time together, one of you needs to stick to the phone for something important, let your significant other know about it – just a few words. “The server has fallen, it is urgent to bring it up,” or, say, “Our nanny is calling” are quite worthy reasons to interrupt communication for a while, but let your partner know that you are not doing this because you are with him got bored and that you will try to solve everything as quickly as possible.
It’s actually simple: be truly close to the person you love. And do not change communication with him for communication with the smartphone screen.
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