4. Encourage him to do things alone sometimes.
To be honest, for me personally, this point was perhaps the most difficult. I don’t know why, but when Ivan and I first started living together, I just hated how much time he spent without me surfing or mountain biking. Both he and I worked a lot then, all that was left for us to spend time together was evenings and weekends, and it seemed to me that he was neglecting me for the sake of his toys.
In doing so, I put a lot of pressure on my husband, and, to be honest, it was not very honest about him. Over time, we learned how to properly distribute our free time, I realized that I should not take offense at him for these hobbies, and, in turn, began to use his willingness at any time to support my desire to spend an evening in the gym, following my diary. or, say, just a book in bed.
In fact, the fact that you spend part of your free time apart is even good (unless, of course, he goes into his hobbies so much that you completely disappear from his list of priorities)! If you are worried that he is spending the evening somewhere else, ask him when he is going to return, and if it is not too late, plan something together for the rest of the evening. Spending time away from each other can give you more topics to discuss, and if he uses that time for exercise or meditation, it can also help him be happier and healthier.
It’s actually quite simple: when he tells you that he needs to do something alone that makes him happy, smile and wish him luck, and then kiss. This will help him understand that you fully support him and do not get angry with him at all.
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