2. Tell him that you really appreciate what he does for you and your family.
If your partner’s job requires him to get up early every day and drive a few miles from home, let him know that you really appreciate what he does. Even if he loves his job, I guarantee you that he still has days when he is completely serious about quitting, yelling at his boss, or just hiding somewhere in the backroom and sitting quietly there so that he nobody found it. But he doesn’t. And one of the reasons he still doesn’t do it is you and your family.
In a certain sense, our society still remains extremely conservative, and despite the fact that in the modern world both partners most often work, men are still hammered into their heads from childhood that they are supposedly earners, and only he depends on them, will be whether on the family table there is only bread, or also butter and caviar. That is why their self-esteem often directly depends on what figure is entered in the payroll under their name. And if this attitude of society seems to you a little one-sided, then, believe me, if you do not realize how strong pressure our men are sometimes under, and do not appreciate the efforts they make, this makes them even worse.
And even if your partner does not work, but, say, does housework and looks after the children, he also sacrifices a lot for your family. Even if he likes to mess with the kids, and he gets genuine pleasure from it, all parents from time to time have a desire to throw the white flag, yell at everyone, or hide in the closet. But he doesn’t! He selflessly throws his chest on, ahem, the embrasure, and spends days on end in something sticky, looking after the children, and not losing his temper, even when they turn the whole house upside down.
It’s actually quite simple: regularly tell him that you have a great idea of how hard and difficult his job is. Tell him that you really appreciate how much he sacrifices himself for the sake of his family and that you see how he works hard to make your future brighter and more joyful. It’s not even about money – yours or his – but the recognition that society, as a rule, takes for granted (as part of the “man should” list).
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